Saturday, May 18, 2013

Desperate

Lately, I have just been a big ball of anxiety, stress, worry and desperation. I feel that moving out date creeping closer, and I feel so far behind, and out of control. I worry if I am doing the right thing, even though the rational part of me knows that it is a healthy step forward.

 Anxiety tends to be the most difficult, and debilitating demon in my mind. I am always on edge, and nearly always fake otherwise. I have a deep love of organisation - and ultimately, of perfection, but find the process to achieve that organisation and perfection stressful and at times, overwhelming - because after all, perfection is impossible.

For me, as long as it 'looked' pretty from the outside (particularly my marriage), I was ok. I could cope. When cracks appeared, I tried to fix them. But the reality, was so very different. The cracks just got bigger or lingered and grew under the surface, until I was drowning in them.  Until we were drowning in them. Lies and truth became indistinguishable - and one of us thought that lies were preferable to the truth, while the other thought that the lie of the image was more important than the truth that one partner was always lying to them.

With the benefit of hindsight, of course, things become clearer.

But doubt brings desperation, worry, anxiety. The only one I can control is myself.


Jo

6 comments:

  1. Hi from ICLW. Sorry your marriage didn't work out. My first one didn't work out either.

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  2. No good things come without an inkling of doubt. I wish you a healthier, happier, wholesome future.

    -Jenn, from ICLW

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  3. Hugs.... Sending you strength to get through this difficult time...

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  4. Hello from ICLW, I am so sorry you are going through a difficult time. I hope you will find comfort and support from those around you. Hugs.

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  5. Your last sentence is so true

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  6. Hi from ICLW - I am a survivor as well...its hard to breathe sometimes but therapy is helping me get through this trauma...thank you for sharing your story

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